I think at one time or another, we have all struggled to maintain a balance in life. Just when you think you’ve gotten on top of one area of your life another starts to slip and it can feel impossible to give each area your full attention.
Inevitably this will leave you feeling stressed out, guilty and overwhelmed. There are so many elements that make up each person’s life and juggling all of these elements is hard - proving yourself at work or running your own business, making sure that you spend quality time with your family and friends, looking after your own personal health, running your household, keeping on top of bills and finances - the list is endless so it’s no wonder that it’s a struggle to feel like you are succeeding in all of these different areas in your life.
I believe that the best way to create a healthy balance is by looking at each area of your life and identifying where you struggle the most or asking yourself which area often slips when you’re busy? When I designed The Angel Planner I created a page with a balance wheel for people to do just this and the aim is to then set goals that focus on each aspect and make a plan for improving those particular areas.
By making a plan, you are focusing your mind to each area at specific times. When you have lots of different things swirling around in your head, you tend to find that you aren’t actually giving any of those thoughts your full attention and this feeds the feelings of guilt, anxiety or being overwhelmed.
For example, if you feel that you aren’t focusing enough on your work - whether you are employed or self employed, start by making a plan for each week. Write out a list of what you want to achieve within your working life that week and then highlight the top few items on this list. Focus first on achieving the prioritised items and then continue to work your way through. Use a schedule to work out how much time and when you will work on these items.
Or if you feel like you are working too much and not spending enough time with your loved ones, apply the same rules. Sit down and go over your weekly schedule - set yourself a time to finish working (that includes turning off the computer and setting your phone to one side) and focus on your family and friends. By giving them your undivided attention the time you do spend with them will be of better quality and when you go back to working you can do it without feeling guilty and can therefore give that your full attention also.
I think that very often, the first thing to slide when we are busy is our own personal health. It’s easy to take time away from ourselves when others need it more. However, the only way you can be your best self is by taking care of yourself first and foremost. Making sure that you’re getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, exercising, eating well etc are all things that will make you feel good and in turn will help you to feel happier, improve your concentration, and allow you to maintain a better balance.
Once you have a plan in place, the key to maintain balancing is to keep reviewing. Each month, look over your balance wheel and adjust your plans accordingly.